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Plastic Surgery: To tell or not to tell

One of my best friends recently had a boob job and debuted her new look at a neighborhood party. Though I was the only one she told, people started to notice and it wasn't long before it was THE topic of conversation at the party (unbeknownst to her). Finally, a loud-mouthed husband with a few beers under his belt sidled up to her and said, "Everyone wants me to ask you if you've had a boob job."

In my opinion, whether or not to "cop" to having work done is really a matter of personal preference and how comfortable you are with sharing that kind of information with others. If it’s something not terribly noticeable - like botox or lipo, and you’re a fairly private person, you may be able to get away with not broadcasting it to your Bunco group. But if it’s something that’ll be harder to hide - like you’ve gone from an A-cup to a D-cup or your once grand nose is now petite, sometimes it’s more awkward if you don’t come clean to at least your best friends. If you don’t, you might create more buzz on the subject by ignoring or denying the issue. Remember Ashlee Simpson’s “maybe I did and maybe I didn’t” response? That probably kept the gossip mongers buzzing for months longer than they would’ve if she'd just admitted to having a nose job.

The rule here is: Cool Broads don’t ask.

I don’t care if you suspect your best, best friend in the whole wide world of having something “done” - you don’t ask. If she hasn’t mentioned it, you can assume either one of two things: 1) she hasn’t had any work done, or 2) she’s not comfortable telling you. She’ll tell you if and when she’s ready. Respect her privacy. You wouldn’t ask her how much she weighs (at least I hope you wouldn’t) and you wouldn’t ask her how often she has sex with their husband (you better not!). So please don’t ask your friend if she’s had those nasty spots on her face lasered.

Another rule: don’t ask your other friends if they think you’re best friend in the whole wide world has had work done. That’s slimy. If she looks great…tell her she looks great. If she wants to let you in on her little secret she will. If she doesn’t, she won’t. Period.